PNOY says no to divorce
President Benigno Aquino III is not in favor of Gabriela party-list Luzviminda Ilagan and Emerenciana de Jesus' proposal to legalize divorce in the Philippines. However, he is in favor of estranged couples to remarry after being legally separated. In his statement, he disagrees with what happens in Las Vegas where people get married in the morning and gets divorce in the afternoon.
The main difference of Divorce and legal separation is that estranged legally separated couples are not allowed to remarry while people who have gone through divorce are. Before couples are legally separated, they would have to undergo a long procedure to prove that their marriage is indeed irreparable.
In my opinion both legal remedies are does not benefit the children of the union. I think they shouldn't let legally separated couples to marry. Approving such measures would legal separation a few steps away from becoming what a divorce should be.
I know a lot of people who are legally separated or have chosen to have their marriage annulled. Either way their children are the one who suffer most. My friend's child has shown behavior of rebellion as early as 3 years old. I am neither a Psychologist nor do I have a working knowledge with how the mind works but it has an effect on their children. I have another friend whose husband is away since he is working abroad. Her child is somehow is not easy to discipline and doesn’t respond well when scolded. He seems to look for a lot of attention and get jealous of his younger sibling. You could argue that it maybe because of the upbringing of the child but I think that a child needs both of his parents.
On the other side, divorce is beneficial to partners who are experiencing any form of abuse. If the marriage is doing more damage than good, maybe it is ok to have a divorce. However who would decide on this? Who would decide whether a marriage is irreparable? Are the judges equipped with the right tools to make the right decision?
We would expect objections from the Catholic Church. And who would blame them. I myself don’t entirely agree with divorce but to those who are experiencing abuse form their spouse would definitely agree with this. I still believe that marriage is meant to last and every couple should stick with one another until the end.
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